Hi, I'm Alison (she/her)
I'm a cisgender, queer woman in a hetero-presenting monogamish relationship.
You're probably here because you know you're not straight and you want to come out to your partner but you don’t know what that looks like.
Or, you’ve come out to your partner and now you want help figuring out what a great relationship looks like.
I've been there Too.
I didn’t know I was anything other than straight until my 30s. I always thought that sexuality was related to what you “did” (date, sleep with, etc.) not about who you were attracted to.
So I thought that I was straight - or that I was only kissing other women to attract the male gaze (gross I know - but that was my mindset in the early 2000s).
After years of introspection - and exploring queer podcasts, books, and shows - I realized that I was bisexual.
I wasn't sure what I wanted to do once I accepted this part of myself. I was happily married and raising a kid with my best friend.
Did I want to act on this newly found identity?
Did I want to risk my relationship by coming out?
Could I still be valid in my sexuality if I hadn’t acted upon it (the answer to this is always YES!)?
I honestly wasn't sure - but I knew I wanted to share my internal monologue with Tanner. So I prepared for my coming out conversation.
I asked Tanner out on a date and told him I "wasn't straight."
Without skipping a beat - he said “Me too!"
And that led to many more conversations.
Ones with big feels and big impact.
Ones that have allowed us to define what we really want for ourselves and our relationship.
Ones that have helped us stay strong and committed - going on 14+ years!
But here's a Secret No One Tells you
There are no rules...
...even in getting to know yourself.
...even in a relationship.
You get to decide what you want your relationship to look like. The way you co-create the relationship you want with your partner(s) is through conversation.
The relationship(s) you desire are possible.
I can help.
what we do
No matter where you are in your journey, I can help.
New identities can feel like a big change in a relationship but they don't have to be.
Get the help you need to craft a loving, supportive, and clear coming out conversation.
Create the relationship you desire. Learn how to have conversations that keep you connected as you navigate your new future. Decide what will work best for you in your relationship and how to ask for what you want while still respecting all people in your relationships.
Want help, but Not sure where to Start
I get it, sometimes it's hard to know even where to get started. Book a clarity consultation call so we can chat about what's the best option for you. This is not a high pressure sales call - just a place to connect and see what's possible.
Still Not Sure if You're Ready to Come Out?
Get started with my exploration questions to help you know if now is the time.